First off, if you were expecting this article to be about raising successful kids, it is. If you were expecting this work would offer a list of behaviors to avoid, it won’t. To raise children who are to be a success we must teach them to embrace failure. In fact failure is something to be celebrated.
Why is failure so important? I can see three advantages to failing.
- Actual failure allows you to clear your mind of fear. Most people don’t truly fail because they messed up. They fail because they let fear stop them from trying. If anyone actually does something that fails they have beaten fear.
- Failure proves that their was something wrong with either your aim or the plan used to achieve it. Making adjustments to your path during the journey is normal. Any feedback that helps you to know what is the ‘wrong way’ helps you stay on course and keeps you from getting helplessly lost.
- Failure is the dead end of a habit path you have been following. Our thoughts create our feelings, our feelings inspire our actions, our continuous actions form our habits and our habits become our lifestyle. Habits can be really hard to break, enough failure can be the karios that breaks destructive behavior.
It’s natural to avoid pain, that can make embracing failure a challenge. If you could use a little help teaching this lesson to the ones you love most here is your opportunity.