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Four Principles for Parents Who Don’t Want to Raise Thugs


Principle one – You are Valuable and Worth Protecting

Depression and felling unworthy are ugly energies. You will naturally try to get out of any negative state of emotion. Many kids instead of feeling depressed will get angry, hit people or throw things. If you want to prevent these outburst, remind the child of their value. Let them know that they matter and they are worth protecting. It’s really hard (if not impossible) to feel angry or resort to violence when someone is singing your praises.

Principle Two – You Have a Right to Be Free From Physical, and Emotional Pain

Ignoring a problem never makes the problem go away. For some reason, ignoring a problem makes it bigger. Pain is your body’s way of saying “Hey cut this out, this is bad for us!” Emotional pain is the same. When you feel emotional pain its time to take action, time to change direction, time to think differently. Kids who recognize their right to be free from pain will respect others have the same right. Tell a kid to ignore insults attacks or any other type of pain and you are sending a message that pain is either to be dished out or eaten.

Principle Three – When Facing Criticism Remember Your Quality

Kids are going to face criticism, insults and the opinions of others. To win you must remember and keep your mind on your advantages. Give attention (or credit) to a critic and you strengthen the critic’s comments. Be ready to counter punch any and every insult. Negative energy that is allowed to cultivate in a mind becomes violence. To stop this, minds must fight back by remembering their value.

Principle Four – Use the Minimum Amount of Force

It’s called efficiency. It’s also called compassion. If the time comes that you have to defend yourself, eliminate the danger and then use the minimum amount of force. Keep in mind no force at all is sometimes the minimum. Other times no force is not efficient.   Teaching children the first three concepts helps them make the right decision when its time to use the forth.

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